DEAR ABBY: Last year my mother passed away after a 15-year battle with lung cancer.
When I tell people she died, I am not bothered if they ask what she died from. However, more often than not, when they learn she died of lung cancer, they proceed to ask me if she ever smoked.
It’s so upsetting! Why would they ask this? Because she got what she deserved if she did?
Without answering their rude question, I explain that my mother had a rare, slow-growing type of cancer that afflicts nonsmokers (which is true).