DEAR HARRIETTE: When you first look at me, you probably cannot tell that I am biracial. I am definitely White-passing. I have very fair skin and straight hair.
I don’t really feel the need to tell new people in my life that I am half-Black unless it comes up naturally in conversation.
The other day I was having a conversation with a new friend, and she made a slightly offensive joke about Black people. I am no longer sure that I want to be her friend her after that talk.
Maybe if she knew that I am Black, she wouldn’t have felt comfortable making that joke.
Should I distance myself from her, or should I try to have a conversation about the racially charged joke that she made?
DEAR NEW FRIEND: My uncle was White-passing. He told many stories of being in the company of White people who would say disparging things about Black people.