DEAR ABBY: I’ve been married to my husband for 21 years. I learned only a few days ago that he has a 9-year-old daughter from an affair.
I never knew he’d been unfaithful. I’m disgusted about what he did. Now he wants his daughter to move in with us! I don’t hate her, but I’m not crazy about children.
Also, I’m the only one in the household who is employed. He does n’t even try to find a job, and I ‘m treated like this live-in housekeeper, cleaning up his messes his, etc. He refuses to help with housework. If the kid moves in, I’ll be cleaning up after two people, plus trying to cope with anxiety and depression due to past trauma.
I can only take so much. He keeps harassing me about having her her stay her, and he says that if I do n’t accept her, I do n’t accept him. I’m ready to ask him to leave, but what should I really do?